Dear Abuser,

New readers, This won’t make sense until you read 955 Days

Dear Abuser,

I won’t say your name. You made the national news. You’re about to face trial for attempted murder. When I first heard the news, the revengeful side of me thought, karma’s a bitch. However, after all the articles, Facebook posts + people from my past messaging me… I started praying.

Sometimes I wonder what I would say to you if I ever saw you again…

Thank you for giving me my first son. He won’t know you, but will be warned about people like you. You’re missing out on a great kid. Thank you for punching me in the face… That woke me up from the spell I was under. I started to discovered my self worth and realized I deserve the world… And have found someone who has given it to me.

There are moments I feel sorry for you, but then I look in mirror and see the scar on the bridge of my nose. It’s a constant reminder that I survived you and I don’t have to be afraid anymore. You have no control over what happens and you’re completely powerless. I know the feeling.

It’s been five years since that morning; That day, my new life began. The girl that was tricked into loving you died that day. I watched my life go up in flames and I realized that the fire torched my chains along with it. Without you hurting me, I don’t think I would’ve been freed from those chains. The Khaleesi within me was born. As Ariana Grande says; Thank you, next.

When the police showed up you told them I hit you first, that I provoked you into hitting me. The same story you told everyone… That I was the crazy one. I was then 25% percent at fault in their book. Only 75% of my hospital bills were paid for because of that lie. You fooled the best; Police officers, judges, parole officers, pastors… Not anymore. A majority of us know who you are and what you stand for. I’m sure there are some out there that still believe the facade and I pray for them.

I pray that Talon won’t feel the affects of this. I pray that you don’t get set free and do this to someone else. I pray for your family and the pain you’ve caused them. I pray that I never see you again. Despite everything, I pray for your soul.

Some facts;

• Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.

• Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.

• Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

• Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.

• Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

• Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone—the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.

• Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police.

If you know anyone who’s struggling with this, or you’re struggling through it, PLEASE tell someone. Reach out for help. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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“I won’t let the pain turn my heart into something ugly. I will show you that surviving can be beautiful.” – Christy Ann Martine

3 Comments

  1. You said it beautifully! You are a very talented writer because you are real and transparent. You are braver than you will ever know. You are one of the most beautiful, kindest souls I have ever met. I am so grateful to have you as my sister!!! Love you! #hoisigirls4ever

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